It’s completely okay to say this I don’t know what to do with my life! Because you have already accepted the reality and there is no fake illusion of anything. Let’s see how we can figure out the meaningful answer to this question so that you can find out what to do in your life.
If you want to change anything, the first step is to accept it. Congratulations as you have accepted it in the first place. This is a positive step towards progress in life. Let’s have a brief understanding of this type of doubt and how we can find an answer to this question. We will understand it through looking at the frequently asked questions; the ultimate aim is to find the meaning of life.
What is Life?
Life is a journey and not a destination. Everyone has his own journey, and there is no meaning in comparing one journey with another because everyone has different boarding point, halts and destinations. Every journey in life is unique, and that makes life meaningful. If you don’t know what to do with your life, then you have endless possibilities for exploration.
Uncertainty is a prime factor in growing in life. It teaches you to deal with everything that is mostly out of your comfort zone. There is no meaning if you know everything that is going to happen next because it will kill the curiosity and fun element of living. Life is full of experiences where everyone is going to get different experiences based on their own approach. It’s okay if you think that “I don’t know what to do with my life!”
Life is much more than just a moment between birth and death. It is an opportunity to learn, explore, fail, get success, share and enjoy every moment with full of energy and positivity. Look at it as an opportunity to try something new every day.
What is My Life’s Purpose?
Everyone is different and unique here. There is a purpose for everybody’s life, and it’s not only limited to your life, but it is also going to affect other human beings, society and the generations to come are going to get some value from your life. Everyone is asking the question; I don’t know what to do with my life! But the answer lies in finding the purpose of life, and this purpose is eventually going to help everyone in some way.
Even if we say life is a journey and not the destination, it is different from having a purpose in life and following it. No matter how much money a billionaire makes, earning more money is one of his purposes. His daily actions are supporting his purpose. It might be relevant for him, but it will not apply to anyone else because it’s his own way of living life and following his life purpose. Thus finding the purpose is an important and crucial factor in giving meaning to our life.
Living a life without purpose is something like going for a journey without knowing the destination. Sometimes, it is helpful to get new experience, and it will help to deal with the uncertainty. However, a life with purpose will concentrate on a specific thing, and it will not only save energy, but also it will extract the most value of out of limited resources. Your life purpose will give you the reason to exist, and you won’t say I don’t know what to do with my life! Again.
How Do I Know What I Want Out of Life?
If you want to know what you want in life, then the best way is to keep exploring here and there. No one knows what is best for you other than you. Your parents are coming from a separate generation; your friends have a different approach for looking at life; you are mentors might not have adequate information about you. Hence, it is essential to figure it out on your own.
You have to keep looking and trying new things, even 9 out of 10 things are not useful for you, at least you have the experience of those things. Life is all about experiences, and choosing the best one is what gives a sense of fulfilment in life. You have to figure out what you want in your life, and experiences will help you. I don’t know what to do with my life! However, you can try everything and go with the best one, right?
The regret of not doing something is always greater than the regret of doing something. This mantra will help you to to take decisions if you have any confusion or question in mind. Yes, there are some exceptions here like you can’t hurt anyone and feel sad about it. This is applicable to do positive self-experiments. If it will help you to get new experiences and those new experiences will help you to decide what’s right and wrong. You will have first-hand information about those things.
How Do I Figure Out What to Do With My Life?
As rightly pointed out by Steve Jobs in his commencement speech. Our work is going to fill a large part of our life, and hence to truly feel satisfied, we have to do what we love and to find what we love, do we have to keep looking.
Doing new tasks, meeting new people, going out of your comfort zone, exploring new concepts, doing some practical experiences would help you to find what you truly love.
If there is a scheme that we will give you clothes, shelter and food for the rest of your life but we won’t be paying you any money. What would you like to do in such case for the rest of your life? That would be your goal, and that would be something that you will love to do in your life.
After 40 years from now, your money won’t be the main factor if you are trying to analyse the entire life. The only thing will matter that is, were you happy in last 40 years? Suppose you deliberately want to earn money, and that makes you happy. In that case, Warren Buffet is one of the wealthiest people of this planet, and his business is to earn money, but more than that he loves to understand companies and potential of those companies. Even today he spends most of the time while reading the reports of multiple companies out there.
Do you think he has no money to outsource that work? He can outsource his entire career and go on a vacation because he has earned use amount of money. However, making money was never his life purpose; it was to find valuable companies and investing in the potential of those companies. Reading and studying annual reports of the companies makes him happy, and money is just a byproduct of this process.
You have to find what makes you happy, and other factors such as money, fame, satisfaction will automatically follow you. You have to find what makes your life happy in the long term.
How Can I Be Happier?
There are certain values we try to implement in our life. Such as doing good deeds and appreciating others is helpful for them, but also it gives a sense of satisfaction in the core of our ego. Givers gain more than takers because of this theory.
It makes us feel special about ourselves, and we feel like doing the same activity again and again. Suppose you are sharing some valuable information with others, you have to seek more information to keep sharing. This will not only add value to your life, but also it will help others, and since you will keep sharing it with others, it will give you the purpose of life. Giving will provide you with satisfaction and happiness.
This is not just related to information but also doing good things to others makes them feel special, and this positive energy comes back to you with a growth of 10x.
Let’s do a small experiment here, Pick up your phone and dial a number of your friend, relative or any person who has added any positivity in your life. Call them right away and appreciate adding positive values and helping you to be a better person. This acknowledgement will help them to feel good about themselves, but also you will feel more satisfied because you have given credit to them and the feeling is mutual now.
How Do I Find My Passion in Life?
Passion is something that is not based on motivation. It is the core intuition that drives you towards your goal. Similarly, like finding the life purpose, you have to test it on every phase. You have to keep asking the questions like, is it ok if I am not able to earn money at all from this in my entire life? Is it ok if people start trolling me? Is it ok if I am the only one doing this thing on the planet? If the answer is yes, then it is your passion.
The purpose is the goal which you follow throughout life. Happiness and satisfaction is the value you get by following your life purpose. Passion is a key to keep going and keep following the Life goal and the purpose of life.
If you have the right mindset, then you will be able to find the purpose of your life. If you have a passion for your purpose, then it will help you to keep going even if you don’t see any immediate results. There are milestones, but there is no final destination for the purpose in life. Even if you are dead, you will be inspiring many people and generations to come. The value you will get from this journey is known as happiness and satisfaction. The overall blend of everything makes our life a meaningful life.
How Do I Find a Career I Love?
There is a demand for everything, do not find the career you love but make the career in something that you love. The idea here is to keep doing the things and improving it daily. Sharing value with others in a professional capacity is a career.
Your prime focus should be on developing the skills, knowledge, experience in anything that you truly love by the core of your heart. Trust me on this; you will find several opportunities if you are consistently making progress in anything.
Whether it is continuously playing games and improving it, weather sleeping for more than 10 hours daily, whether it is writing, reading, painting for anything that you can think. We are living in the 21st century where there is a market for everything, and you will not only be able to achieve excellence but also marketing your skills.
People are earning money by sharing their live streams while they are sleeping & snoring. It’s not because they love to make money in the first place, but they love to sleep.
How Do You Get Clear on What You Want?
Understanding that which things are most valuable in your life and how they are contributing to making your life more meaningful are the things you need to prioritise. There is a fundamental difference between what you want and what you need. There are advertisements which claim that you need something, but in fact, they are creating want and nothing else.
Need is something that comes out of own experiences. Want something that is influenced by external factors. A world-class athlete might need a top-notch mentor to improve his quality of practice. This is a need of that athlete which is coming out of his own experience and intuition. On the other hand, a shoe company is always pitching him their new product of shoes and the company is trying to convince him that he needs those things even if he already has good shoes. In this case, the company is trying to portray the want as a need.
Understand this with deep attention, don’t allow external factors to affect your understanding about the need and want. If you believe that something is going to add value to your life and make it more meaningful, then it is your need that is coming out of your mind. Social media feed will continuously try to sell new things to you, and it will be planting want in you. Do not let this happen at all.
Need brings value, and you cannot always purchase it with money, sometimes you have to pay a tremendous amount in time as well. You cannot become a world-class athlete by spending money. You have to spend time in years into practice.
How Do I Find What I’m Good at?
Excellence is not a final destination; it is a continuous process of improving ourselves. When the greatest artist started learning about his field, he was completely new. Still, the constant practice helped him to seek excellence in his field, and he became master of it eventually. If you want to find your best skills, then there is only one option, and that is exploring everything. At a certain point after trying many things, you will have to choose the best among the rest, and that’s how you find your best quality. Say this to yourself; I don’t know what to do with my life! However, I know which things I like and which things I don’t like. Right?
Don’t worry even if you don’t have any skill in the particular sector where you have a high amount of interest and passion. You will find a solution for every obstacle whenever you will be following your goal with passion and dedication. Don’t Stop looking and exploring anything new.
Life is all about getting new to experiences and learning from it. There is no destination, but life happens in between the journey. It’s ok not to have clarity and not to have any plans in mind because that the first stage where you make yourself ready to explore freely. You have to find what you love if you want satisfaction and happiness throughout life. If you have a purpose with passion, then no one can stop you from being successful and happy.
Keep looking and trying new things, keep doing experiments and exploring something new every time. Whenever you find it, you will get an intuition about it, and you can continue it and make it your career in your life. Some people are super successful not because they earn a huge amount of money, but they do something that they really love, and money is the by-product of it.
I hope this article has helped you to find you the direction, and now you are all set to start the new journey. Now, don’t say “I don’t know what to do with my life!” Start working on your goals.
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